Boyfriend using booty call’s business in his new business?

Question by Cheryl: Boyfriend using booty call’s business in his new business?
Sorry, I had to delete my other question. It was way too long, and when I went to edit it down, it posted it! Here is the shorter version (no, really!)

Boyfriend and I’ve been dating over a year (in our late 30’s), just moved in together. We are very deeply in love, each feeling we have finally found “the one”. 3 months back, when working with permission on his emails, I discovered infrequent (monthly?), but continuing, sexually charged contact between him and his former booty-call neighbor (now my neighbor) that seemed to end with a “thanks for being a great friend” right around when I moved in, and she got a boyfriend. Nothing to indicate anything physical had happened since we became “exclusive”, but there were a few “thinking of the showers we used to have together”, “me and my ****** miss you”, “I’d like to ***** with you, baby”, as well as proof of at least two actual visits where they sat and chatted about life and he let her know he was turned on, they agreed they were too dangerous alone together, etc. This occured up until a year into our relationship. During this time, he and I were spending the night with each other 5 or 6 nights a week, sex at least once (if not twice) a day, etc. I was very, very hurt.

After he and I had long, very good talks about this, we worked things out and he agreed to stop all contact with her: personal and business. (She owns a printing company he’s used in the past to make pens, matchbooks, etc. for his old business. )

He just started a new business with 2 others. Last night, I discover they placed an order with said booty call for advertising pens. Wtf? I asked about it. He says yes, but as per his promise, he made sure *he* definitely had no contact with the neighbor or her company, instead giving the name to one of his (female) business partners to take care of and get quotes from (which does seem to be the case). There are other printing places in town, but he says their prices were the best and he felt insane to tell his partners they couldn’t use that company because his girlfriend wouldn’t like it.

However, I contend he’s the one who gave them her name to begin with. I don’t want pens with this person’s name ending up on my coffee table (her last name is her company’s name); it’s caused enough pain already and I don’t like thinking of her with him in what is now my house while I was at work. He thought he did the right thing by having no contact himself, they are just “pens”, and I was overreacting.

I contend he should have realized the or so that they saved wasn’t worth opening old wounds in our relationship. He ended up saying he didn’t understand why I was feeling what I did, but he appreciated it and would tell his partner no more business with booty call’s business.

Am I crazy? Does anyone else not want objects that are emotionally charged like that in their house, or are they just “objects” to you? Everything is okay, but he was truly dumbfounded that it bothered me; and I was dumbfounded he was dumbfounded. He thought he did the right thing, I thought he was pushing it. Thanks!

Best answer:

Answer by Tero M
LOL i’m sorry i couldn’t read all of it =(

Know better? Leave your own answer in the comments!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *